I honestly would say if she's comfortable in it, let her wear it. The truth is, she'll probably get a lot of unwanted attention in those teeny skirts, and will stop wearing them on her own. Maybe something like, follow the school dress code, but what you wear out to the movies is your own business. Funny enough, teens often sort these things out on their own, but too much policing is just going to make her want to wear it more, despite any negative attention she gets, because teenagers, they are contrary.
Also, you don't want to make her feel like her outfit is the reason that people are treating her in a particular way, because, yes, people do make judgments, BUT, dudes who act inappropriately are ENTIRELY responsible for their behavior, and you need to instill in her a feeling that she is her own person, and does not need to bow to the demands of random assholes.
(I am WAY more modest now at 30 than I was at 15, and it had nothing to do with what any person in a position of authority told me. Alas, because I am short and look young for my age, I can literally wear like five layers and STILL get leered at inappropriately, because I look like an easy target -- but that is entirely a different problem -- and also sorta reinforces my personal opinion that modesty is complete ****ing bs. Also I'm an art model, and have only *once* ever been treated inappropriately while I was *completely naked* -- a dude kissed my foot and I sent him packing -- and yet I was once violently assaulted while wearing a long-sleeved shirt with a tank top underneath, a sweater, and an ankle-length skirt. Clothing is NOT the problem.)
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Date: 2014-03-18 01:05 pm (UTC)Also, you don't want to make her feel like her outfit is the reason that people are treating her in a particular way, because, yes, people do make judgments, BUT, dudes who act inappropriately are ENTIRELY responsible for their behavior, and you need to instill in her a feeling that she is her own person, and does not need to bow to the demands of random assholes.
(I am WAY more modest now at 30 than I was at 15, and it had nothing to do with what any person in a position of authority told me. Alas, because I am short and look young for my age, I can literally wear like five layers and STILL get leered at inappropriately, because I look like an easy target -- but that is entirely a different problem -- and also sorta reinforces my personal opinion that modesty is complete ****ing bs. Also I'm an art model, and have only *once* ever been treated inappropriately while I was *completely naked* -- a dude kissed my foot and I sent him packing -- and yet I was once violently assaulted while wearing a long-sleeved shirt with a tank top underneath, a sweater, and an ankle-length skirt. Clothing is NOT the problem.)