Agreed, and yes, it can be VERY strange. I mean... my girlfriend identifies as VERY straight... she likes boys, A LOT, she likes sex with boys... but she's only ever been in love with me... a physical female. We have sex... basically never, but we've been a couple for 8 years and we'd be married if the law allowed it where we live. How the hell do you find words for that or describe it wirhin the boundaries of "normally" accepted sexuality? A straight nymphomaniac in an 8-year relationship with an asexual mostly-male-identifying-genderqueer lesbian... that sounds like the basis for one of the most absurd novels ever written. And yet, we have a 2-year-old daughter and every intention of being together for the rest of our lives.
And I've known other people whose sexualities fall all over the spectrum in undefinable ways. My sister is straight as straight gets but still likes to make out with girls. Of course, to me, it's impossible to tell the difference between a male and female when you're snogging unless the male has facial hair, so that's not too surprising for ANYONE. But then I know straight girls who've had more than one kid who are still partly or mostly "male"... and vice versa... and...
Yeah. The language of gender identity and sexuality is so magnificently lacking in American English, it's almost laughable.
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Date: 2009-11-28 08:25 am (UTC)And I've known other people whose sexualities fall all over the spectrum in undefinable ways. My sister is straight as straight gets but still likes to make out with girls. Of course, to me, it's impossible to tell the difference between a male and female when you're snogging unless the male has facial hair, so that's not too surprising for ANYONE. But then I know straight girls who've had more than one kid who are still partly or mostly "male"... and vice versa... and...
Yeah. The language of gender identity and sexuality is so magnificently lacking in American English, it's almost laughable.