Hm. I can't really remember being accused of claiming sour grapes as such...
And ditto on the wanting someone equally weird... also my big thing is I want someone who is less high maintenance than me/more stable in ways I'm not. So I tend to crush maybe on someone, and then I get to know them, and realize that things will Not Be Good because they need ME to be stronger than I can be, and I'd need them to be stronger than they can be... objects of crushes always seem to wind up either seriously OCD or depressive themselves, and I back up fast, and also lose the crush...so far since my big burn in middle-schoolish things have never gotten serious.
..well, or I crush on straight girls or gay guys. Sometimes they're pretty stable, but... heh... yeeah. Doesn't work out either ;)
Someone I talked to about it once said they suspect that I'm sabotaging myself a little by always making sure to only be attracted to people I either have no chance of getting (animated characters, Lucy Liu) or that I know I'll have a GOOD reason to avoid (OCD friends, psychopaths)... but no real idea, and so far no real worries about it either.
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Date: 2009-06-22 03:46 am (UTC)And ditto on the wanting someone equally weird... also my big thing is I want someone who is less high maintenance than me/more stable in ways I'm not. So I tend to crush maybe on someone, and then I get to know them, and realize that things will Not Be Good because they need ME to be stronger than I can be, and I'd need them to be stronger than they can be... objects of crushes always seem to wind up either seriously OCD or depressive themselves, and I back up fast, and also lose the crush...so far since my big burn in middle-schoolish things have never gotten serious.
..well, or I crush on straight girls or gay guys. Sometimes they're pretty stable, but... heh... yeeah. Doesn't work out either ;)
Someone I talked to about it once said they suspect that I'm sabotaging myself a little by always making sure to only be attracted to people I either have no chance of getting (animated characters, Lucy Liu) or that I know I'll have a GOOD reason to avoid (OCD friends, psychopaths)... but no real idea, and so far no real worries about it either.