In terms of feeling down, everybody has those days. You never get to a point where there is no doubt in you.
However, in terms of the writing, if that is your life work - then it is. My recommendation to my kids has always been to find the work that you would actually pay good money to be allowed to do, and then do it however you must. Earning a living is a separate matter. If a day job is necessary, then have one. It needn't be your life work. Sounds to me like your life work is writing, and the task at hand is figuring out how to make enough cash to survive without squeezing the writing out of your life.
Parents - and I'm speaking as one - want their kids to be safe. Watching them take on something hard and risky feels even more dangerous than doing it yourself. Failing personally is painful but endurable. Having a kid go crash is -- unendurable. What you are hearing is probably not a lack of faith in you so much as a pessimistic view of the world and an emotional reaction to the prospect of you getting hurt. Often enough, we parents are not reacting in a way that is about you, but rather about us. Patience with us, please. I can cheer you on more easily. It isn't my world that will come apart if you go crash.
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Date: 2008-11-09 07:28 pm (UTC)However, in terms of the writing, if that is your life work - then it is. My recommendation to my kids has always been to find the work that you would actually pay good money to be allowed to do, and then do it however you must. Earning a living is a separate matter. If a day job is necessary, then have one. It needn't be your life work. Sounds to me like your life work is writing, and the task at hand is figuring out how to make enough cash to survive without squeezing the writing out of your life.
Parents - and I'm speaking as one - want their kids to be safe. Watching them take on something hard and risky feels even more dangerous than doing it yourself. Failing personally is painful but endurable. Having a kid go crash is -- unendurable. What you are hearing is probably not a lack of faith in you so much as a pessimistic view of the world and an emotional reaction to the prospect of you getting hurt. Often enough, we parents are not reacting in a way that is about you, but rather about us. Patience with us, please. I can cheer you on more easily. It isn't my world that will come apart if you go crash.