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Dec. 3rd, 2012 09:19 amCan anybody recommend a good travel mug? Mine is starting to make everything taste skunky, and skunky tea is no way to start the day.
Dec. 3rd, 2012
Why, So She Is
Dec. 3rd, 2012 11:22 amJust came across this post by RJ Anderson. As the kind of person who groans when a story stops dead to have another damn sex scene, it is nice to be assured that won’t happen.
On the other hand, though, I can’t escape the feeling that she’s REALLY overthinking it.
I dunno. I’m asexual, I suppose, in the sense that I have no interest in having the sex with anyone, which seems like a top qualification, really,* but there seems to be all sorts of bells and whistles and Community and Identity associated with it that I just do not bother with. I have asexual characters—one of the two main characters in the OGYAFE is asexual. My previous Doctors! narrator is asexual.** It never struck me as something I’d announce with a big fanfare; it's just how they are. (Actually, I am stupidly pleased when I remember to give a character a romantic interest. It doesn't always occur to me.)
This probably speaks more to my own ignorance than anything. I do tend to take my own weirdnesses for granted until someone else points them out. But it does feel … I don’t know, overdone.
It’s very nice of her to think of different sorts, though. And I did like the one book I read of hers, so I may have to look into this. It is nice not to have to worry about overwrought sex scenes, after all.
*As a teenager I used to dread the day that I would have sex, because everyone just assumes that day will come for all people. At some point it occurred to me that if I wasn’t interested, there was no point in anticipating it. Load off my mind, let me tell you.
**The currect Doctors! narrator is rather hilariously NOT asexual. It becomes a plot point.
On the other hand, though, I can’t escape the feeling that she’s REALLY overthinking it.
I dunno. I’m asexual, I suppose, in the sense that I have no interest in having the sex with anyone, which seems like a top qualification, really,* but there seems to be all sorts of bells and whistles and Community and Identity associated with it that I just do not bother with. I have asexual characters—one of the two main characters in the OGYAFE is asexual. My previous Doctors! narrator is asexual.** It never struck me as something I’d announce with a big fanfare; it's just how they are. (Actually, I am stupidly pleased when I remember to give a character a romantic interest. It doesn't always occur to me.)
This probably speaks more to my own ignorance than anything. I do tend to take my own weirdnesses for granted until someone else points them out. But it does feel … I don’t know, overdone.
It’s very nice of her to think of different sorts, though. And I did like the one book I read of hers, so I may have to look into this. It is nice not to have to worry about overwrought sex scenes, after all.
*As a teenager I used to dread the day that I would have sex, because everyone just assumes that day will come for all people. At some point it occurred to me that if I wasn’t interested, there was no point in anticipating it. Load off my mind, let me tell you.
**The currect Doctors! narrator is rather hilariously NOT asexual. It becomes a plot point.