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bloodyrosemccoy) wrote2012-12-03 11:22 am
bloodyrosemccoy) wrote2012-12-03 11:22 am
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Why, So She Is
Just came across this post by RJ Anderson. As the kind of person who groans when a story stops dead to have another damn sex scene, it is nice to be assured that won’t happen.
On the other hand, though, I can’t escape the feeling that she’s REALLY overthinking it.
I dunno. I’m asexual, I suppose, in the sense that I have no interest in having the sex with anyone, which seems like a top qualification, really,* but there seems to be all sorts of bells and whistles and Community and Identity associated with it that I just do not bother with. I have asexual characters—one of the two main characters in the OGYAFE is asexual. My previous Doctors! narrator is asexual.** It never struck me as something I’d announce with a big fanfare; it's just how they are. (Actually, I am stupidly pleased when I remember to give a character a romantic interest. It doesn't always occur to me.)
This probably speaks more to my own ignorance than anything. I do tend to take my own weirdnesses for granted until someone else points them out. But it does feel … I don’t know, overdone.
It’s very nice of her to think of different sorts, though. And I did like the one book I read of hers, so I may have to look into this. It is nice not to have to worry about overwrought sex scenes, after all.
*As a teenager I used to dread the day that I would have sex, because everyone just assumes that day will come for all people. At some point it occurred to me that if I wasn’t interested, there was no point in anticipating it. Load off my mind, let me tell you.
**The currect Doctors! narrator is rather hilariously NOT asexual. It becomes a plot point.
On the other hand, though, I can’t escape the feeling that she’s REALLY overthinking it.
I dunno. I’m asexual, I suppose, in the sense that I have no interest in having the sex with anyone, which seems like a top qualification, really,* but there seems to be all sorts of bells and whistles and Community and Identity associated with it that I just do not bother with. I have asexual characters—one of the two main characters in the OGYAFE is asexual. My previous Doctors! narrator is asexual.** It never struck me as something I’d announce with a big fanfare; it's just how they are. (Actually, I am stupidly pleased when I remember to give a character a romantic interest. It doesn't always occur to me.)
This probably speaks more to my own ignorance than anything. I do tend to take my own weirdnesses for granted until someone else points them out. But it does feel … I don’t know, overdone.
It’s very nice of her to think of different sorts, though. And I did like the one book I read of hers, so I may have to look into this. It is nice not to have to worry about overwrought sex scenes, after all.
*As a teenager I used to dread the day that I would have sex, because everyone just assumes that day will come for all people. At some point it occurred to me that if I wasn’t interested, there was no point in anticipating it. Load off my mind, let me tell you.
**The currect Doctors! narrator is rather hilariously NOT asexual. It becomes a plot point.
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And another species where ... oh, but that's a spoiler. ;)
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I am perfectly aware that asexual doesn't mean asensual, or aromantic. It's good to see that essay.