I think the real "problem" is that you are attracted to and entertained by a certain "type" of story or character which has a high tendency to come packaged with the elements you DON'T like. That really usually happens because they are memeplexes, and/or holons, which are passed down among storytellers and all aspects of them get written because deviating from the memeplex or holon is a risk too big for most sci-fi authors to be willing or driven to take, because most authors do not make enough money from their books to be able to support themselves and their families on their writing alone... and because it is actually against our instinctive nature to do so.

It's weird how this works, but it's pretty common. I would be willing to guess that not one of those books of yours would be anything I'd be even willing to START reading. And that's why it's common -- because you read what you WANT to read, and what you WANT to read tends to come with baggage you DON'T want to read.

I don't know... if it bothers you that much, maybe try picking up a book yo DON'T immediately want to read? Ask for suggestions from other people and find some books with what you like and less of what you don't? I can't help you, sadly, but that might be a start...