I can totally relate. I'm trying out this one Dojang which is more MMA than straight TKD, and that's is not what I want. They start out with ITF patterns, then higher belts do WTF poomsae. The guard and a lot of kicks and blocks are from Muay Thai. Do Not Want. The other possibility is at least a 20 min drive. And I don't have a car. That means it's probably an hour or so on the bus.
What I am probably gonna do is go back to gymnastics for the year at least, then when I move next May find something that's right for me. (fingers crossed anyway)

Also, these are direct quotes from kids I've coached. I even had long hair at that point, I think.
Young boy: "Are you a girl or a boy?"
Young girl: "You look like a boy"
" " (later): "I don't like you."

p.s. I am a girl. Last time I checked anyway ;)